If you, like me, got dumped over the phone at your local shopping mall while buying a Christmas gift for your then-boyfriend and now have a lot of time on your hands going into the spring semester, you might be wondering, “What should I do with my 10-15 extra hours of free time now that it won’t be spent cuddling a significant other through the cold winter months?” Well I have a few suggestions for you.
Now that you are rid of a person who probably wasn’t super good for you anyway, you can finally focus on yourself. Think of the relationship ending as quitting a part-time job where you were actually losing money and time. Even if you are still happily in a relationship or were single through winter break, these activities can be fun for anyone! 2020 is the year of self-care, and each of these can help you become an even better person than you already are.
1. Read a book.
It can be really hard to read for pleasure during the semester when you’re trying to balance class, work and a social life. But hey, you don’t have a relationship anymore, so now you can finally start reading those self-help books you got from your aunts and uncles after high school graduation.
To me, there’s nothing like getting lost in a good book, but it can be hard to make time to read when there is so much good content on YouTube, Netflix and TikTok — not to mention all the social media apps begging for your attention. I recommend the app called Flora to focus and get off your phone. You set a timer and it basically punishes you for getting on your phone by saying that you killed a tree. It’s pretty effective for me, I read several books over break.
Here are a few of my favorite books:
“Gone Girl,” “Little Women,” “The Picture of Dorian Gray,” “The Little Paris Bookshop,” “How to Date Men When You Hate Men.”
2. Start journaling.
Quit talking the ears off your friends about your ex and start writing those feelings down. Journaling is super therapeutic and way more intellectual than getting a Finsta for the sole purpose of having a place to publically overshare, even though I totally respect and understand if you did this after ending your relationship — because I did too.
3. Get on Tinder.
This does NOT apply if you are in a relationship, geez, that is NOT cool.
Get on Tinder just so you can hopefully find and swipe right on that one cute guy or girl you never had the courage to ask out when you were single before. (Trevor, if you’re reading this, do you wanna get coffee?)
4. Join a club.
Join a fun extracurricular club! Build that resume, honey! Pursue leadership positions!
5. Start a club.
If your very quirky and super niche interests are not represented on Campus Link, start your own club. Start writing the Constitution and Bylaws and get that thing approved by the Office of Student Engagement. Be the change you want to see in the world, queen/king!
6. Join the Standard.
You can write fun articles like this and turn your life into Art™! The Standard is a quirky bunch of editors, reporters, photographers, reviewers and podcasters and you can join us. Training sessions for the Standard will be on Thursdays from 3:30-4:20 starting January 15.
7. Learn how to sew.
Sustainability is a trend that is here to stay. Do your part by learning how to stitch up holes, embroider and make your own clothing. Everyone will be jealous of your unique look and may even pay you to sew things for them. If this does happen, you may develop a successful, self-sufficient career as a seamstress/tailor and that would be a really cool story.
8. Finally learn to cook.
I don’t really have any tips for this one, but it’s definitely something I want to try, especially now that I have my weekends free.
9. Sell all the stuff your ex gave you and use the money to invest in stocks.
Again, I’m no expert on this one, so you should probably consult Google or a financial advisor, but it seems like Amazon would be a good company to invest in?
10. Work out.
Get super swole so that whenever you run into your ex, you scare them a little with how huge your biceps have gotten. On the real, exercise is always good for your physical and mental health. I like to listen to feminist podcasts while I’m at the gym because there is no better motivation to get strong than the need to defeat the patriarchy and Men™.